𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲 𝐩𝐮𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞?
Let’s talk about POSSIBLE TRUTHS.
When we live with anxiety or trauma and find ourselves triggered by things that happen in our lives.. we often leap into the worst possible scenario right away.
We all know what happens in that space, right? It’s nothing good. We shift our mindset to match that scenario and we begin to let the idea grow in our imagination.
Before my Everest Base Camp Trek, I was really worried that I wasn’t going to get along with my roommate or even the other people in the group. I lived in that possible truth for weeks before I brought it up to my therapist and we started talking about possible truths and the ways they can shift our lives, both negatively and positively.
And even though I was living in that negative possible truth - there were other possible truths. We only offer ourselves a fair chance at fighting a negative mindset and anxiety when we explore ALL of these truths, rather than just sitting with one.
𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐭𝐡𝐬?
— I would get along with most of the people.
— I would get along with everyone and make a bunch of new friends.
— I wouldn’t get along with my roommate, but we wouldn’t be stuck together constantly and it would be okay.
— I wouldn’t get along with anyone, but it wouldn’t matter because I was THERE FOR MYSELF!
If I hadn’t shifted my possible truth from the most negative one possible.. I would have stepped off that plane in Kathmandu expecting the worse, and I would have brought nothing but more negativity into my life. I may have even manifested this possible truth by giving it SO MUCH SPACE.
But instead? I gave space to all of those options. I honored each one, and I didn’t allow myself to grow into any of those possible truths. I just sat with them and then reminded myself that no matter what - I am safe, I am loved and I am enough.
The actual outcome? I stepped off that plane so excited to meet my new friends and my new roommate. I couldn’t have picked a more perfect roommate for me, or a better group of people to take this huge journey with.
That possible truth that I was trying to live with? It couldn’t have been further from the actual truth.
The next time you’re struggling with possible truths, don’t get stuck on the worst one. Explore them all.. then keep on moving. You’ve got this.